The 3 Things That Are Holding You Back from Success
Realistically, what happens when you chase something? It runs away. You have to decide before you ever catch it whether or not you are enjoying the chase or if you would enjoy it more after you caught whatever it was that you were chasing.
We play this game with success too.
When we are just getting started in our careers we think that the next promotion, the next pay raise, the next job will make us feel successful. We enjoy the “chase” because it makes us feel like we are growing and learning. What we find is that once we catch it we don’t want it anymore because we want MORE. This becomes very frustrating and might even make us feel like we are on the wrong path or that we chose the wrong career. In some cases changing your surroundings will help you get exactly what you want out of life, but only after you know exactly what it is that you want.
Has anyone ever asked you what success means to you? The dictionary defines success as “the accomplishment of an aim or purpose”. You will not truly feel successful until you have clearly defined what “being successful” means to you. The dictionary does not tell you what the “aim or purpose” is for a reason, because the answer is different for everyone. The dictionary also does not describe success as a feeling at all, which begs the question: can you be successful now without accomplishing everything on your list?
I think the answer is yes.
You should give yourself credit for all of your accomplishments and stop devaluing them just because they have been crossed off of your list.
Now, let me say this again:
If you are chasing success, it will run away from you.
Here are the top 3 reasons why you will never catch success (and not all of them are bad!):
A Scarcity Mindset: You think there is not enough success for everyone and you need to chase after it in order to obtain it before anyone else does, then you will never reach it. You will be overwhelmed, stressed out, caught up in comparing yourself to others, and constantly feeling guilty for not doing more.
You’re a High Achiever: You are constantly raising the bar because you know that once you reach the next level of success, you can always do more, learn more, and be better than you were the day before. In this case you do not think you will ever catch success because you believe that you have no limits.
You are chasing someone else’s definition of Success: You want to make everyone else around you happy and proud of you. You strive to do the “right” thing or focus on what you “should” do.
Which one are you? Leave me an answer in the comments. I read every post.