How To Stay Positive After A Really Bad Day

How To Stay Positive After A Really Bad Day

When I graduated from high school, I was so excited to be done with memorizing things and regurgitating them onto tests. In my History class I remember having to memorize important dates and I swore I would never ever need to know this information again so it didn’t make sense why I needed to know it. (this was before emojis existed, but it was a total eyeroll emoji moment)

Well, I’m proving myself wrong today because it’s December 7th - a date which will live in infamy.

December 2017 Potentialista Of The Month: Amber Wanner

December 2017 Potentialista Of The Month: Amber Wanner

This article was first published in HuffPost.

Amber Wanner, Founder of CandiDate, shares how she responded after receiving a condescending message on LinkedIn.

In today’s world people are more connected than ever through the internet and social media. While it can be a great way to meet people that you wouldn’t otherwise meet, it also opens individuals up to harassment that they may not have experienced if they were meeting people face to face. A 2014 report from Pew Research Center states that 73% of internet users have witnessed online harassment. They define harassment as “being called offensive names, efforts to purposefully embarrass someone, being harassed for a sustained period of time, being physically threatened, being sexually harassed, or being stalked.” This study looked at harassment that could be seen publicly, but if people are willing to say those things online where everyone can see them, what is happening in private messages that we can’t see?

How To Turn Boring Routines Into A Fun Game

How To Turn Boring Routines Into A Fun Game

This time last year I was interviewed for a research study at Columbia on grit and passion. One of the things we talked about was how I turned everyday routines into a game. My example was - commuting to work every morning. We get stuck on autopilot, take the same route every morning, and sometimes don’t even remember driving to work once we get there.

When I moved to NYC I decided that my morning commute would be the one time of the day that I didn’t make any decisions except to be present. The game was to go a different way every time, to follow the crosswalk signs, and to take pictures so I was looking up instead of down at my phone.

What It Really Means to Accept A Compliment

What It Really Means to Accept A Compliment

When was the last time you gave yourself a compliment?

If compliments are embarrassing and make you sink back and want to disappear - you especially need to be doing this! If you argue about whether or not someone should be complimenting you or your first thought is all of the things you are doing wrong then what is really going on comes down to "deserving". Do you feel like you deserve the compliment? Do you feel like you are "good enough"?
 

How To Know When You've Found Your Tribe

How To Know When You've Found Your Tribe

Go to the places where people wish you well. It sounds so simple, doesn’t it?

And yet I know I have gone places where people didn’t wish me well. I know I have been guilty of rising to the challenge to compete, to be “the best”. Nobody’s perfect. (said by a perfectionist) If you've ever had friends argue with you that your dreams are too big, had a significant other call your business a "fun hobby" right before telling you to "go get a real job", or had a family member tell you that you are all over the place and tease you about "what groundbreaking idea you're going to come up with this week" then you know what I am talking about. It is really really hard when the people in your life do not understand what you are doing and you don't feel supported.

A Lesson In Miracles

A Lesson In Miracles

I posted this on social media:

[What miracle are you expecting this week?]
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When you expect miracles, you are no longer surprised when good things happen to you, you no longer find yourself saying things like "I never win anything" or "I'm not lucky".
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Expect the best for yourself because you deserve the best and stop settling for anything short of miraculous.

Looking back, I can’t even believe I said this thing about miracles!

And I’m going to tell you why.

November 2017 Potentialista of the Month: Aimee Barr, LCSW

November 2017 Potentialista of the Month: Aimee Barr, LCSW

Imagine what your childhood would have been like if you had focused on your strengths instead of your weaknesses. At a young age, we learn that if we are struggling with something we need to ask for help; we focus on the things that do not come naturally to us, and try to get better at them. For children with learning disabilities, this means being removed from regular classes. They are taught how to work around their disability and given a support system where they are encouraged to never give up. Although going to her school’s “resource room,” was humiliating for Aimee Barr, a licensed clinical social worker, she refused to let her learning disability hold her back.

From a young age, Barr was determined to help other people like herself.

October 2017 Potentialista of the Month: Sarah Pendrick

October 2017 Potentialista of the Month: Sarah Pendrick

Over the last few days if you have spent any time on social media then you know the echo of “Me too” could be felt all over the world. What initially started as a call for awareness about sexual harassment and assault among women has now shown us that no matter what your gender, race, or sexual orientation you have likely been affected by this in some way.

Now that we understand the gravity of the situation, you might be asking yourself, “Where do we go from here?”

This is a question that Sarah Pendrick, Founder of GirlTalk, is on a mission to answer.

September Potentialist of the Month: Doug Foley

September Potentialist of the Month: Doug Foley

The Women In The Workplace Study 2016 taught us that women in corporate America experience an uneven playing field, but are female entrepreneurs experiencing the gender gap at the same level? Last year Bloomberg reported that only 7% of the 2,005 founders who received funding of $20 million or more from U.S. Venture Capital were women. Statistics like these do not seem to be deterring women from continuing to work to close the gap, in fact, some would argue that heightened awareness of the gap is empowering women to start more businesses. The 2014 OPEN State of Women-Owned Business report estimated that women are starting approximately 1,200 new businesses each day, up from about 740 a day the year prior, and I would imagine that we are continuing to see exponential growth.

July Potentialista Of The Month: Tricia Brouk

July Potentialista Of The Month: Tricia Brouk

When it comes to being a brilliant, successful, confident, single woman in today’s society, we are bound to be asked the question, “Why aren’t you married yet?” This is exactly the question that Tricia Brouk and I bonded over when I reached out to interview her about overcoming the fear of public speaking.

5 Ways to Ask for Help Without Feeling Helpless

5 Ways to Ask for Help Without Feeling Helpless

Everyone is Overwhelmed and Nobody is Asking for Help.

Do you have a to do list that is a mile long? It feels like whenever you cross one thing off the top of the list, somehow there are five new things that have been added to the bottom? It’s no wonder we feel so overwhelmed when we have put ourselves in a situation where we can not catch up or feel accomplished.

How to Accept a Compliment

How to Accept a Compliment

Have you heard the saying

"Stop stealing my thunder"?


I don't think I have heard it since high school, but those are some of the most impressionable years of our lives and they actually shape us into the people we are today.

Accusing someone of stealing your spotlight or thinking that there is not enough room for someone else to shine if you are shining means you are focusing on a lack of something. When you think about whether or not there are enough compliments to go around it sounds a little absurd, doesn't it?

One Thing You Can Do to Increase Your Energy Levels Today

One Thing You Can Do to Increase Your Energy Levels Today

I know I have told you that the best way to plan your week is to figure out a time when your energy levels are high and that is when you will be able to absolutely slay. What I didn't tell you is that Wednesdays are my Mondays. It's like that in between where you're halfway into the week and there's no turning back, but not quite close enough to the weekend to be excited...yet! 

Is Fear Holding You Back From Taking Action?

Is Fear Holding You Back From Taking Action?

This weekend I got to celebrate the birth of a beautiful baby boy with my dear friends. Here he is, in a city of 8.4 million people, surrounded by love. We were asked at his baby shower to share a piece of advice that would later be given to him. My wish for him is that he always knows how much he is loved and always feels he is worthy of it because I know that as we get older and as we gain life experience we might forget those very things we are born with.

The 3 Things That Are Holding You Back from Success

The 3 Things That Are Holding You Back from Success

Has anyone ever asked you what success means to you? The dictionary defines success as “the accomplishment of an aim or purpose”. You will not truly feel successful until you have clearly defined what “being successful” means to you.

March Potentialista of the Month: Chelsea Villines

March Potentialista of the Month: Chelsea Villines

I get to meet so many inspiring women through the work that I do helping professional women, entrepreneurs, coaches, and network marketing professionals that I thought now would be a great time to start introducing you to all of them! I couldn't think of a more inspiring woman than Chelsea to feature as the very first Potentialista of the Month and I am honored to be able to share her story with you.

How to Build a Healthy Relationship with Yourself

How to Build a Healthy Relationship with Yourself

Have you ever been in a relationship that you knew was bad for you, but you stayed in it anyway?Maybe you didn't know it was that bad because you felt pretty happy, but your friends told you that it wasn't healthy or it wasn't going to work.